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Escapism or just being different?

Tonight I was watching a series of programs on the history of wildlife on TV (BBC4) and in one they suggested that the birth of environmentalism was a form of escapism.  Visits in the fifties to zoos or to watch Zoo Quest with David Attenborough was simply a desire to see and experience entirely new things.  For those that had not set foot out of ‘Bradford’, seeing animals ‘out of Africa’ was literally out of this world.

The birth of environmentalists then grew in the sixties alongside ‘free sex’ and ‘ban the bomb’ marches , and fired by the Torrey Canyon disaster the World Wildlife Fund (WWF) grew and prospered to the extent that now we take for granted that we should try to ‘save the world’ and as many species in it as possible ~ something that just fifty years ago would have been a truly ‘out of this world ‘ idea.

It doesn’t take long!  Less than a lifetime to change the world’s perception!

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It occurred to me that many of those trying to change the world were doing so in rebellion to their parents, in rebellion to the government, to the mores of their society.  In other words they wanted to be different, they wanted to change the world and acted upon it.

It is a fairly natural thing to be different.  Those that are sufficiently different that have leadership qualities succeed in politics or religions and attain many followers.  The more mundane amongst us tread our own separate ways but get their ‘high’ out of not being one of the sheep.

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Many of us that are tgirls, crossdressers or trannies do so because we enjoy being different.  It is our own form of escapism where we can be something else for a part of our lives.

For some (with due deference to my transsexual sisters) it is no different to having a personality that works and a personality that plays.  These personalities are interwoven but often very different.

Those that are stressed at work often want high kicks at home (or away!).  Extreme sports.  Travel to far-off places. New religions or the latest health kick, pilates or yoga.  Others get their kicks from extra-marital affairs and it is easy to think of celebrity icons such as Tiger Woods, Hugh Grant even Michael Jackson in this context.

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To be a tgirl or tranny and to be out in public requires a certain amount of bottle, even if not so much as it would have 50 years ago, and when out, many of us get a natural high. Is this (for many) not just another form of escapism?  The opportunity to dress, to make-up and transform, to adopt a totally different persona?

How many of us are in reality dual personality (does this mean schizoid?) and actually need at least two personalities to remain sane.  But is this so bad?  How many amongst us act one way amongst their friends, another in front of their parents?  What about the guy that is so ‘in love’ that his personality totally changes in front of the one he loves?

I’m a tgirl, a crossdressser, a  tranny (UK).  I enjoy the fact that for periods of my life I can be different.  It is my form of escapism, it really shouldn’t hurt anyone although I understand that it can cause embarrassment and difficulty if some around me were to find out.

But todays difference is tomorrows normality and we all have to pave the way for those that follow.

Thanks for reading

Hugs

TinaCortina xx

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October 6, 2010 - Posted by | musings of a tgirl | , , , , , , , ,

6 Comments »

  1. Very true as I enjoy my little vacations as Susan. still the same person but a different outlook on life. two in one, what could be better.

    Hugs
    Susan

    Comment by susanmiller64 | October 7, 2010 | Reply

    • Hi Susan

      Yes and I admire you for your efforts to make the general population just take us as part of life’s rich tapestry. We do need to be out there. We do need to educate people. If we just manage to convert one person each time we go out, multiply it out……….. we can change outlooks within a lifetime.

      Hugs
      Tina x

      Comment by TinaCortina | October 10, 2010 | Reply

  2. Do you feel you have the balance right between the male ‘you’ and Tina? Or, like me, do you sometimes feel that you primarily maintain the male side in order to please others who are near and dear? I guess that’s the big difference between being TV and TS and I honestly don’t know which I am. It’s nice trying to find out, though.

    Comment by Angela Davis | October 9, 2010 | Reply

    • Hi Angie

      It is difficult to say what is the correct balance. All I know is that there is no way I would want to be female all of the time. If you start from that premise then you work the rest out as you go along. Good luck with your own quest and thanks for dropping by.

      Hugs

      Tina xx

      Comment by TinaCortina | October 10, 2010 | Reply

  3. Tina,
    I see your point. There is so much complication in life that sometimes, it is best to leave things alone. But I very well see your point.

    By the way, I stumbled upon a short Tran article
    (http://hvoorhees.wordpress.com/2010/10/15/thats-fan-tran-stic/ ) from Heather, a Minnesotan whose article “Things Best Left Unsaid” ended up in today’s Freshly Pressed. Heather has very little understanding of the matter so I commented and gave your blog address to her.

    Take care,
    Anna (Delaware, USA)

    Latest Post: “My Dear Girl…Be Wise”
    http://thiswritersdelight.wordpress.com/2010/10/11/my-dear-girl%e2%80%a6-be-wise/

    Comment by writersdelight | October 18, 2010 | Reply

    • Hi Anna,

      Thanks for the links; I guess I will visit Heather and leave a comment also. I had a quick look and felt she was not unsympathetic to our cause, just wanting the poor tgirl to try a little harder, but as another commented, you really cannot do too much about the voice.

      Thanks for visiting

      Hugs

      Tina xx

      Comment by TinaCortina | October 18, 2010 | Reply


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